Wednesday, February 23, 2011

7 Ways We Sabotage Our Own Powerful Intentions

I've just come back from a great networking meeting full of amazing, heart-centered, professional women who are changing the world through their professions and their passion.

It was structured so that we could network with each other for a few minutes along with the chance to present to the group and showcase yourself, your work and your passions.

I listened to their projects and I spoke about my mine (more on that in my next post). The amazing thing during this special structured kind of networking is that we got to witness how everyone had so much to offer and in the room were people who could help and did!

Business cards were exchanged, win-win solutions manifested, interns were sought and dancing partners were found in the blink of an eye!

If only the world would respond so readily, you might be thinking.

Well it does, when you ask with the expectation of receiving. Here is an article that I feel would help identify how to change some of the inner chatter that sabotages your intentions and your success and I just had to share it with you.

Enjoy!

Do you ever feel like you're just way too sensitive?

"Intention rules the earth," says Oprah.

It's true.

The first part of my upcoming workshop next weekend is devoted solely to intention. There are exercises to strengthen clarity and commitment as you answer the following question:

"What do you want?"

This question might totally throw you off. If you're like many of my clients, you've believed your limiting thoughts for so long, that you don't realize you can ask for what you truly want and that you have the power to attract it!

So, naturally, you might do some wonky things at first that actually sabotage an otherwise powerful intention! Here are seven of the most common ways we do that:

#1 - "So that."

Example: "I intend to lose weight and get in shape SO THAT I can be energetic and happy in my daily life."

"So that" says: "I can't have THIS if I don't have THAT." It is restricting. And intentions are about expansion!

Be brave enough to ask, "What do I ultimately want here?" If you want two things, you can divide the intentions with AND or WHILE. "I intend to lose weight while being happy and energetic in my daily life."

#2 - Implementing Bureaucrat Speak Calibrated to Leverage Maximum Capacity Mental Paralysis

Example: "I intend to leverage an incremental degree of financial stability insomuch as I can facilitate a reasonable facsimile of value-added methodology."

When you set an intention, you're speaking to your soul, not to the folks in HR. Intention is supposed to excite us a lot, and scare us a little. Pretend you never worked in corporate, and use language that feels good to you.

#3 - "Ing" Overdose

Example: "I intend that I am becoming clear about my career path while my health is getting better and I am attracting a loving romantic partner."

The Universe always says YES. In this case, it says, "Yes indeed. You ARE becoming clear. And you are, in fact, ATTRACTING a loving partner... any minute now!"

Stick with present tense even though it's scary.

#4 - Scattered, Splattered and Covered

Example: "I intend to get clear about the next steps I'm taking in my life with health, lifestyle, my relationship, and career. Oh, and I also want to lose weight, make more money, move somewhere else and write a novel."

I call this "Attention Splatter." It doesn't work. It's nothing more than sabotage.

Here's what's wild, though. When we allow ourselves to focus on one single intention, often the other things we want will begin to manifest effortlessly. (OR we come to realize that we no longer want all those things!)

Be willing to be unimpressive and boring. Start with just one thing.

#5 - Trying to figure out the HOW.

The reason my call tonight is called "The Unstoppable Power of Intention" is because it's true! When you set an intention, you don't have to know HOW.

Yes, of course, you take action. But you don't "figure it all out" first. Trying to figure out HOW it could possibly happen is just your scarcity mindset trying to take control. (And how's that been workin' for you so far?)

#6 - Worrying about your ego.

"Isn't this just my ego talking? How will I know if I'm honoring my deepest self? Is this intention my TRUE! LIFE! PURPOSE????"

You can spin your wheels for years trying to discover an Academy Award-Winning Life Purpose, or waiting til you're "totally at peace." Don't set this trap for yourself. The simple action right in front of you is all you need to take. (And sometimes, it might be deceptively boring!)

If you can't hear your deepest self yet, then just start somewhere. Maybe your ego's desires will open up a deeper path.

#7 - Removing, obliterating, or ridding yourself of obstacles, weakness, and issues.

Example: I intend to rid myself of all of my anger and addictions and stop letting my ego run the show and never have emotions again.

Dude.

This is SO not gonna happen.

You don't have to focus on your "stuff" just to prove that you're not in denial.

Remember this: Energy flows where attention goes. When you include your "issues" in your intention, then you are, in essence, saying, "Let's really give this my energy. Let's dredge it up, shall we?"

Focus instead on the things that you DO want. That way, the obstacles and issues will naturally come up for release in their perfect and right time.

by Christine Kane, Mentor to Women Who are Changing the World. She helps women uplevel their lives, their businesses and their success. Her weekly LiveCreative eZine goes out to over 12,000 subscribers. If you are ready to take your life and your world to the next level, you can sign up for a F.R.E.E. subscription at http://christinekane.com.

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The weekend course that I organise help to dissolve the internal limitations, stress and worries easily along with whatever is limiting your success. After only two days, your energy, your laughter, your focus and your inner sense of calm and purpose will have skyrocketed. (After two days, participants have also found they look 5 years younger. Woo-hoo!).

Join me on 26 and 27 February. Register by sending me an SMS on 3333063833 and I'll send you all the details.

Love, light and laughter!

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